The search for one's soulmate can feel daunting at best and nearly impossible at worst. With so many people all over the world, how can we be sure we'll find someone who checks all the soulmate boxes?
One way is to not use those boxes at all. Instead, try using a list of things you'd never want your soulmate to do. As soon as one of those things happens, you know they're out, and you can move on to your next potential match.
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The concept of a soulmate usually conjures up images of a picture-perfect relationship, one of endless peace and harmony, the honeymoon phase seeming to last forever. Of course, that's not entirely accurate, but it's true that there are a number of toxic things that a soulmate would never, ever do.
Knowing these things can actually help you find your soulmate, for as soon as one of them pops up in a relationship, you can know for sure that they're not the one. Here are a few examples.
A genuine soulmate will never make you feel bad about yourself. They recognize your value and want to uplift you always. They understand that mutual respect is what makes a strong relationship, so when disagreements arise, they address issues constructively rather than resorting to belittling comments.
In contrast, a toxic partner will actively undermine your confidence through constant criticism or by demeaning your achievements, making you feel like you're never enough. Your soulmate, however, will celebrate your successes and support you through your failures, creating a safe space where you can thrive together.
Isolation is a common tactic used by toxic partners to exert control. They'll discourage you from maintaining relationships with friends and family, wanting you to become more dependent on them. However, a true soulmate understands the importance of your other relationships and encourages you to maintain a healthy support system.
They know that your happiness is linked to the love and support you receive from your broader community. They will join you in family gatherings, encourage you to hang out with friends, and respect your need for social independence. This mutual respect for each other's social lives strengthens your bond; it doesn't diminish it.
Boundaries are an important part of any relationship, and a soulmate will always respect them. Whether it's personal space, time alone, or certain activities you're uncomfortable with, a true soulmate will honor your needs and preferences. They understand that boundaries are not barriers but essential guidelines that help maintain a healthy relationship.
A toxic partner might disregard your boundaries entirely, pushing you into situations that make you uncomfortable time and time again. They'll see your limits as challenges to overcome rather than respect. Your soulmate will encourage the setting of boundaries, always wanting you to feel comfortable and safe.
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One of the most insidious behaviors of a toxic partner is making you feel unworthy of love. They'll withhold affection or use love as a bargaining chip, only giving it when you do what they want. A soulmate, though, offers unconditional love. They make you feel cherished and valued on your own, regardless of your flaws or if you're doing anything for them.
A true soulmate understands that love is not conditional. They show affection consistently, wanting you to feel secure in their presence. They do what they can to dispel feelings of doubt so you can feel wholly loved at all times.
Trust is the bedrock of any meaningful relationship, and dishonesty can erode this foundation quickly. A toxic partner may lie, cheat, or hide things from you, creating a relationship built on deceit. However, a soulmate values transparency and honesty. They understand the importance of trust and go to great lengths to maintain it.
In a soulmate relationship, both partners are open about their thoughts and actions. This doesn't mean sharing absolutely everything all the time, but being honest when one person asks and not feeling the need to hide anything for fear of punishment.
A true soulmate inspires you to pursue your dreams and aspirations. They're your biggest cheerleader, encouraging you to reach your full potential in whatever you chase. Meanwhile, a toxic partner may try to suppress your ambitions, fearing that your success might overshadow their own or cause you to stray from them.
Your soulmate understands that your growth contributes to the relationship's strength. They'll support your endeavors, celebrate your milestones, and even help you overcome obstacles. Your happiness is their happiness, and seeing you do well makes them feel like they've succeeded, too!
A soulmate is someone who's invested in not just themselves, not just the relationship, but you as a person. They want to see you happy and hope to accomplish that with their love and dedication. But they also know how important it is for you to have sources of happiness outside of them. They're dedicated to you and your success, never using you to prop themselves up.
Finding your soulmate might not be easy, but by knowing what they won't do alongside what they will, it becomes easier to weed out those who are just pretending to be your perfect match.
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