Couple Enraged By Low Gift Count At Their $60,000 Wedding, “We’re Really Devastated,” Are They Right?
Weddings are a beautiful ceremony, a display of care, of devotion, and of commitment two people have to one another. It's heartwarming and tear-jerking all in one, and afterward, it becomes quite the party, with celebrations often continuing long into the night.
While there are plenty of ways for a wedding to go wrong, one happy couple didn't have anything to be upset about until the day was done and they were counting up the gifts they received from their guests.
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Extravagant Celebrations
We all know that weddings are often an expensive party to throw. Between renting the venue, getting food, the decor, and the dress, you're likely already in the thousands at the very least. While some opt to work on a tight budget to negate all that spending, many lean into the cost, wanting to have something extravagant for their big day.
That doesn't mean all are ready to face the music after the party ends, though, as seen via one Facebook user who had some misplaced expectations.
A Great Letdown
The post, a screenshot taken from an unidentified "wedding group" presumably on Facebook, was then shared on Twitter by a woman named Kayla. She captioned the photo, "Another bit of audacity from the wedding groups today."
The original Facebook post reads, "We just got married yesterday- and we spent $60,000 on our wedding with a guest count of 270. We worked our butts off and pushed so many bills, rent, ect, only taking out a loan of $4,000 (from my mom and is demanding back by the end of this month). We received $3000 cash and checks TOTAL from cards only."
Changing Plans
"We are like freaking out and just really devastated. Because we would've thought we would at least got like 10,000. Lowest Card amount was $10. Has this happened to anyone else and how did you move past this? [It's] just really eating both of us alive and just really disappointed about it.
"We were supposed to leave Monday for our honeymoon and we canceled it instantly after opening everything. We literally couldn't buy our plane tickets and was going to buy them this morning because we booked the hotel for free with points."
A Bad Sign?
The Twitter post gained over 8 million views as people shared it to debate the complaint this newlywed had about their guests.
The first thing people pointed out was just how expensive a $60,000 wedding really is. Even for expensive weddings, that's a lot, so much that many replies considered it irresponsible to even consider paying that much.
As one reply wrote, "Budgeting sucks, but if you can't handle that [with] maturity then are you even ready to be married?"
Taking On Too Much
The second thing people noted was that they clearly couldn't afford that wedding in the first place. They put off bills to an extreme, they have a loan they now have to pay back, and they were expecting the gifts to cover a large portion of it.
Another detail is the sheer amount of people they invited, 270. That's a huge, huge group to host. Even split between the families, that's still 135 each, which is already a lot of people!
Some, like the comment above, did note that the gifts averaged out to roughly $10 per person, which is low.
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The Finer Details
But others brought up that they likely got a lot in the way of physical gifts, like items off their wedding registry, over straight cash.
Even outside of the dollar debate, though, other replies brought up some of the stranger problems with this story. Like the user above noted, why wait until after the wedding to book your honeymoon flight?
And, as another noted, that $60,000 could have been used for something a lot more beneficial for the couple, "That would've been a decent down payment on a house."
Losing Focus
The largest portion of the replies, though, were annoyed at this couple's expectation that there would be gifts at all, because that's not what weddings are supposed to be about. You're not hosting one to make money, you're hosting one for love, to celebrate your love and share that feeling with the people who are important to you.
Seeing as they're so "devastated" and needed advice for how to "move past" this, it's clear that not getting as much money as they wanted felt like a betrayal, and that they were holding their guests to expectations that should have never been placed upon them in the first place. That's the lesson they should be taking away.
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